Victorian Calling Card
Etiquette
"Often as the subject of the use
of cards and the etiquette of visiting is discussed with correspondents there remain
always certain points to be taken up and explained...."
"It is generally understood that women leave their husband's cards. The custom is
for a married woman calling formally on another married woman to leave one of her own and
two of her husband's cards, one of his being for the hostess, the other for her
husband...."
"As a rule, it is impossible to do more than make a single call a year on
acquaintances in large cities, and this is supposed to be sufficient..."
"Occasions when other calls are obligatory. After a wedding breakfast, a luncheon, a
dinner, a card party, or any evening entertainment to which one has been invited, a call
should be made after the event whether one has accepted or not...."
"When an invitation to a church wedding, or a marriage announcement, is received, it
is necessary to send cards to those in whose name it was issued and to the newly married
pair..."
"In large cities it is usual to leave cards when attending an afternoon tea..."
"It is bad form to write "regrets" or "accepts" on a card. A note
of reply must be written in acknowledgement of an invitation..."
"It is unreasonable to fancy that one's acquaintance is not desired because a call
has not been returned promptly. There are many reasons for delayed calls. Illness in the
family, absence from town, many occupations, may prevent the best-intentioned persons from
making calls...."
"If an acquaintance calls after a long delay it is a duty to welcome her cordially...
to hasten to accept any explanation she may offer and not to allude to it again...."
from....The Delineator
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