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When the ceremony is over, the question sometimes arises whether the bride is to be kissed by the bridegroom. We should leave its decision to the instinct of affection were we not solemnly warned by a portentous authority on deportment that "the practice is decidedly to be avoided; it is never followed by people in the best society. A bridegroom with any tact will take care that this is known to his wife, since any disappointment of expectations would be a breach of good breeding. The bride is congratulated by all her friends in the church, and elderly relatives will kiss her in congratulation." This is, of course, now settled beyond all peradventure of doubt by the fact that, according to the same authority, "The queen was kissed by the Duke of Sussex, but not by Prince Albert."
The married pair then return to the bride's house together, taking precedence of all, and, on arrival, assume a standing position at one end of the reception-room and await the coming of the invited guests, who, as they enter, are conducted by the groomsmen to offer their congratulations. The conventional breakfast or lunch closes the ceremony.
From: Bazar Book of Decorum. The care of the Person, Manners, Etiquette, and Ceremonials. 1873
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"The bride has generally two bridesmaids, and the bridegroom the same number of groomsmen. The bridegroom takes care to provide the wedding ring, and have it in readiness at the proper moment. When the ceremony is over, the question sometimes arises whether the bride is to be kissed by the bridegroom .... 
the practice is decidedly to be avoided; it is never followed by people in the best society." 
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